Say No Without the Guilt

No is one of the shortest and simplest words yet it can stress even the most confident people। Most people say "yes" because they would rather sacrifice their time and energy, than cause conflict or experience feelings of guilt. How many of you have said "yes" to someone, knowing your true intention or desire is to say no? How many times have you said "yes" to something, thus creating over-obligation and more stress? It may be time to put yourself and your priorities first, while learning it's ok to say "no" and let go of the guilt associated with it. By saying "no" you are not only being true to yourself, but respecting all those people asking things of you. It takes practice to step outside your comfort zone but the sacrifice is well worth it.


ACTION ITEMS:
1. Proper Perspective
What's most important to you? Write this down and look at it often। Once you clarify what exactly you want for yourself, it will be easier to stop saying "yes" to things that get in the way. Your time and energy are extremely valuable. Make sure you’re choosing to spend your time, energy and effort on the things that matter most to you.



2. Stop being so "nice"
If you say "yes" just to be nice, chances are you'll follow through half-heartedly or resent that you have to do it। People can tell when your words/thoughts don’t match your actions. Only say "yes" if you truly intend to follow through. Take a moment before responding to a request. Figure out the underlying reason why you are saying 'yes'.


3. Saying "no" is simply saying "no"
It is what it is. You have every right to say no. Remember that you are simply saying no to the request, not rejecting the person. Practice saying "no" this week to requests that are not in alignment with your highest priorities. Saying “no” to something that you don’t really want to do or feel obligated to do is like saying “yes” to yourself.